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About adamjasonp

A Maine native who got lost in the woods. Figuratively speaking.

The Four Social Rules every Autistic Person needs to Learn

For anyone actually looking to understand autism (instead of leaving it to stereotypes or misuse of the term), or care about human rights for that matter.

Every individual is different, regardless of strengths and weaknesses, etc. The spectrum is broad enough, I should know, seeing / coming across / visiting so many people on it. (And being an Aspie myself.)

Actually autistic people must be allowed to lead the understanding & conversation.

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Autism and expectations

Trigger warning – although this post doesn’t mention any detail of abuse, it is about the dangers of teaching someone not to trust in their right to say no

From a young age I was taught three things:-

  • The messages I get from my body are wrong
  • Not wanting to be touched is wrong
  • That I must override these feelings to be accepted

From encouraging an autistic child to give up a harmless stim (which may be helping them to cope with negative sensory information), to telling them that eye-contact doesn’t hurt (when it does translate to pain for some), or that hugs are pleasant physical contact (when they may be too much sensory information all at once) or that labels aren’t painful (when the feeling of being clawed at may be very real), navigating what will be believed as real, and what will be dismissed as silly or attention-seeking…

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Well, that went fast

(Nov 14 2:20 p.m.)

The first snow of the season, here, melted quickly.  Turns out you don’t need many daylight hours for most of the white stuff to evaporate.

Tire tracks. (Nov 13 4:52 p.m.)

This is what it was like the night before.  It wasn’t deep enough to warrant shoveling, but the coating was a thick enough to paint the town white.  At least for a short while.

(Nov 13 4:44 p.m.)

Double exposure in the process of HDR can produce some interesting effects… A car’s brake light stands out — one exposure has the car / light / shadow; the next, no car.

Continue reading Well, that went fast

I didn’t think “soon enough” would mean today!

(Nov 13 2:27 p.m.)

Yeah…

(Nov 13 2:21 p.m.)

It’s still coming down.

(Nov 13 2:21 p.m.)

And the temperatures are expected to remain low— as high as 48°F (9°C)— in coming days, freezing point at best overnight. So the snow (or “light sleet”), as far as I know, won’t clear soon. Of course, light rays cause evaporation, not heat… AccuWeather only gives us “sunny” on Friday.  Goody.

Autumn colors

(Oct 28 4:31 p.m.)

When you live around trees, you’re bound to see the transitions of their leaves, their fruit, etc. But even if you regularly engage in photography, you still may miss the best moments to capture the colors. Windows of opportunity can be short; I was lucky to capture some reds last year.

(Sorry for the HDR artifacting.) (Nov 4 4:45 p.m.)

This year, the reds hit brown by the time I got there.  (Of course, it’s November now.)

(Nov 5 1:00 p.m.)

A mixture of weather patterns makes for a mixture of colors. Continue reading Autumn colors

A candle-lit Halloween

(Oct 30 8:34 p.m.)

It was a dark and stormy night; the rain fell in torrents — except at occasional intervals, when it was checked by a violent gust of wind which swept up the streets. —Paul Clifford, Edward Bulwer-Lytton.

(And, oh, were the winds intense, Sunday!  I was afraid it was going to leak again.)

As you can see by the title, this isn’t part III of Winds of Change (which, unbeknownst to me, was a title of a song).  That’s because the power has been restored.  (Yay!  I can finally write a complete post on the PC.  In theory.  And take a shower.)  It came back on just before noon, making the time “off” about 2 days and 11 hours.

(Oct 31 1:29 p.m.)

Now, this wasn’t ice storm of 1998 bad, which knocked us out for five days (worse for others) and tested our versatility in different ways.  (Winter in Maine.)  Being into electronics at the time, I wired batteries to lights taped to the wall, and even powered a CFL (via inverter).  The lack of heat was the bigger problem.  This decade’s problem: we have batteries in the living room we need to recycle.

(Nov 1 5:36 p.m.)

This week, it was: driving to the city for internet… and a chicken dinner.  And popcorn.  (Hey, my mother wanted popcorn.) Continue reading A candle-lit Halloween

Winds of change, part II

(Oct 28 6:31 p.m.)

So… I’m posting from the library again. (I’ll have to rush a bit again. WordPress is also not working properly— failing to add captions, Javascripts that hang— for some reason. Frustration galore.) The lights are still out at home. But at least with WiFi at the library building, I can send photos directly to the media library… which will be needlessly larger and lack color correction, but you can get a glimpse of what I’ve seen.

Continue reading Winds of change, part II

Winds of change

(Oct 8 12:33 p.m.)

Well, we finally had a real storm in the northeast. Power was knocked out to over 240,000 in Maine alone. It’s mild compared to the recent hurricanes in the south. (Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands are still struggling.) But it affected us directly. I got to see, firsthand, not only downed lines, but the effects of the downed wires: dark traffic lights, a closed road, and a closed half of a road, with tree debris still hanging on several cables.

We lost power last night. In fact, I’m typing this at the library. I have no photos because I took the older phone (which is actually connected and needed charging)… and I can’t find the thumb drive for any other photos. If that drive is lost, I’m SOL for now.

The winds are rose again today, and the tide has been going out. The nearest clouds are visibly moving. The winds are harsh enough that clusters of wet leaves have been tossed around violently, into the streets as you’re driving, and some sea gulls in the air find the winds hard to predict. Entry doors to the library are slightly ajar sometimes, pulled open.

Metaphorically, the winds are high in the news as well. Indictments have been made in the Russia collusion probe, as you may have read. Paul Manafort and Richard Gates, 12 charges. Tony Podesta to step down from the Podesta Group. House of Cards, canceled after someone accused Kevin Spacey of sexual abuse (and then some), after the downfall of Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo campaign that came with it. Plenty of guilty people in the news, and more resignations to follow.

Well, I gotta go. Time restrictions. Until next time…

(Oct 14 6:07 p.m.)

Fall update

(Oct 14 3:01 p.m.)

Autumn.  The leaves are turning red, and the air has cooled.  The air is also drier, considering a little “pink in the sink” from my sinuses.

(Oct 7 2:47 p.m.)

There are no shortages of places with decorations— pumpkins on display, even in our living room (the fake, plastic light-up kind, but still).  Stores make it clear that Halloween is right ahead.  (In the U.S., anyway.)  I was also made aware, by my friends, of the Mid-Autumn festival (observed in China and Vietnam), and Diwali (Hindu)— with plenty of yellows and oranges— comprised of candles and fireworks in the sky, and massive amounts of flying lanterns… Okay, so there were no flying lanterns Continue reading Fall update

Atychiphobia

Atychiphobia: the clinical fear of failure.

There’s nothing like thinking you can’t do anything right, that your inadequacies are too great to live.  Or you’re not “legitimate” in what you do or even as a person because you’re rejected in big ways and small, even by people who’re supposed to care.  And the toxic behaviors you carry from a life of neglect isolate you further.

It’s always more than one thing or one matter with me.  I’m never really okay.  Some have called what I have depression, but it’s not the same.  I’m down and out of luck, and the attempt to take charge goes nowhere.  Whatever it is, I’ve had it for a long time.  And life only gets harder the older I get, as with anyone else. Continue reading Atychiphobia

The fall

(Sep 15 6:15 p.m.)

It’s the last week of summer in the United States.  The autumn colors are showing more.  Yellow and red, some falling around me.

How the overall environ. has treated the “porch plant.” (Sep 15 6:18 p.m.)
(Sep 1 6:59 a.m.)

Fresh leaves collect with the brown.

Blue feather. Closer to a mountain bird than a blue jay. (Sep 2 6:35 p.m.)

Acorns accumulate. Continue reading The fall